Once again, I will start with an apology. No spankings or anal penetrations to report, so sorry for anyone who was hoping for any juicy news.
Now that being said, I know I am going to take a lot of heat for this post as so many people have made it clear that they feel I am being utterly ridiculous about my obsession over my underpants, but I am who I am and I feel the way I feel.
So what happened? In the grand scheme of things, absolutely nothing, but for me, something that left me feeling weird. It was Saturday and I was out and when I came home my wife and Sarah were in the living room chatting. I talked for a few minutes with them exchanging pleasantries, then excused my self as I was planning to take care of some chores outside the house. As I turned to leave I noticed that there was a laundry basket all nice and folded. It was a basket of whites. In other words, underwear, hers as well as mine. I was clearly able to spot my tighty whities in the basket, but that was because I knew they were there.
As I left I became very self conscious of the fact that my tighty whities were sitting in the laundry basket in the same room as Sarah. Did Sarah notice? Was she there when my wife folded them? Did Sarah help fold them?
I know many of you may feel I am being really stupid about this, but I felt a little weird and violated thinking that Sarah might have been handling my briefs. Now when she looks at me I feel she is imagining me in my briefs and laughing silently at me as she wonders why I am not wearing boxers.
Perhaps it is just my imagination. Perhaps my wife is playing mind games with me again. Who knows? Anyway, it left me feeling funny, but just glad I have been able to keep my pants up for the last few weeks. I have been on my behavior so no spankings or other punishments.
If it continues to remain quiet, I might consider taking the time to write about another memorable spanking from my past, but this one goes all the way back to when I was 7 years old, although I remember it like it was yesterday. Not sure if anyone really wants to hear it so I will have to think about it. What made it so memorable? Well it involved me, my mother one of my mother's friends and her 10 year old daughter. No I didn't do anything to or with the daughter, but she was there when something happened to me. Let's just say I was recalling it when I was contemplating the possibility of getting spanked in front of Sarah. I have been thinking about the incident, but have been reluctant to tell it. I will need to think about telling the story. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, but it may help to understand what events in my life may have led to me being the way I am.
Speaking for myself I do not believe in spanking children and don't wish to read stories involving them . But the reality is that many men now spanked as adults were spanked at home., ( not all because some men report being spanked as adults but never at home) and that experience is one reason spanking continues for them. So the psychological implications of those early spankings are important to understand. If I were to write about an early spanking I would spare the detail and concentrate on the emotional and psychological impact it had on you in the spirit of self exploration
ReplyDeleteThanks for your opinion. I am still debating on telling the story.
DeleteJust want to add this lurker's two cents.....
DeleteI hope you'll share the story of your spanking at 7 years old. I think your openness helps all of us disciplined husbands make sense of our current situation and helps us to process our own experiences of discipline as youths and teenagers, too.
Sometimes I can appreciate my wife's strict perspective on things, but sometimes it leaves me a bit confused. Your blog has helped me look at things in ways I hadn't previously considered. I hope you will continue to share. I can't speak for all the lurkers, but this one certainly appreciates your blog.
Either way, thanks for what you've shared so far.
~AK
As a woman, I think I know why your wife spanks you. You have a very immature outlook evident in the above post and the vivid imagination of a young boy in your description on believing Sarah would be interested in whether you wore boxers or briefs and whether she saw/folded yours or not. I find the child in you endearing but with the outlook and imagination and childish attitude you have, i can now understand why you get spanked like a child. I wonder if this is true for your wife in how she sees you as childlike too and spanks you accordingly? As a dominant woman I enjoy your blog and your perspective as a submissive husband, accepting or otherwise. Many thanks for your articulate and descriptive thoughts and insights on your everyday life.
ReplyDeleteKelly
I knew I would take heat for feeling the way I do, but I do not agree with your assessment.
DeleteI acknowledge that I may be excessively modest with regards to my underwear but I do not see this as being "childlike or immature".
I know many children who wouldn't think twice about leaving their underwear all over the house or even parading around in them.
Just because there are adults who don't care about others seeing their underwear in the laundry or perhaps even walking around in them, does not make me a "child" just because I am shy and self conscious about them, it just makes me different.
I am not going to be make to feel like a child just because I have a hang up about my underpants.
I think you misunderstood what Kelly is saying. Sounds to me like she is just generalizing about your "child like" outlook on some issues, as you have outlined throughout this blog.
DeleteIf you posted on you spanking from when you were 7 it would be a retelling of an event. I think what makes it awkward is the possible sexual component given the audience. My suggestion is to post it if you are inclined but make sure the title is clear so no one reads something they are not expecting.
Lastly, do you think she left the basket out to mess with you. Kind of seems like it!
KL
Well, it certainly sounded like she was implying that I was childish for being concerned about a woman seeing my underpants.
DeleteMy wife certainly has come out and accused me of acting like a child and therefore spanking me like one. I just don't see being shy about my underpants to be childish. Both adults and children can be modest and immodest. Age has nothing to do with it.
As for do I think she left the basket out on purpose. To be honest, yes I do think she left it out on purpose.
rt, I was speaking generally in relation to your vivid childlike imagination or outlook on things. I find this evident throughout your blog and your analysing of situations and events. Furthermore, I would suggest that you are not shy or excessively modest about your underwear but ashamed by it.
DeleteYour wife requires you to wear white briefs which you clearly dislike and have likened them in a past blog to boyish or lazy old man-like. You are ashamed of being seen in them e.g. Sarah or medical staff mentioned in previous posts. You seem to think that Sarah will form some judgement of you or perceive you differently because of your white briefs. This is often a common theme in older children and teenagers called "the imaginary audience." You can read about it here if you want to know what I mean. http://tweenparenting.about.com/od/behaviordiscipline/a/DefImaginarAudience.htm
Most teens grow out of this stage and perhaps in being aware of it as a stage of life, you can grow confidence in the fact that it is a stage and perhaps you can get past it and not care about the type of briefs you wear, or that anyone is interested in the type of underwear you wear for that matter.
If, as you say, you can't help feeling what you feel about wearing white briefs, can I make a suggestion. Your wife chooses Hanes high waisted packs of white briefs which you don't like obviously. She insists that you wear white briefs for ease of cleaning etc but there are more attractive white briefs on the market like Calvin Kleins low cut briefs for instance. yes they are more expensive but they do meet the criteria of white briefs and they may make you feel more masculine or modern to wear them.
Kelly
Hi Kelly,
DeleteWell, your observations are noted even if I am unsure what to think yet.
As for asking my wife for different kinds of briefs, we already had that conversation in the past. I asked for white boxer briefs as a compromise, I asked for colored briefs too, but no luck. She has cited cost as a reason but if the decision is hers its either Hanes or Fruit of the loom tighty whities depending on what she can get on sale. She told me I should be grateful they are not brand-X.
If anyone can understand your relationship or your wife it is not I.After she presented you with a new brush for Christmas and earlier carried on a " strict" period of embarrassing bottom barrings, it looked like she was going to begin more consistent and regular discipline in 2015. Maybe she is and you aren't telling us or maybe you are behaving so well discipline isn't necessary. But assuming neither of those is so, something is wrong.I have been an admirer of your wife's methods until now especially in initiating discipline where it was needed..But maybe not any more. She just seems to be letting you hang out there unsure of where she is going , whether you are going to get spanked or not and what her standards are.Sorry to be so negative but she owes you a clear set of expectations.If I managed my husbands discipline this way he would rebel, and maybe you should too.It's time for her to fish or cut bait as my daddy used to say. To be a disciplinarian is to take responsibility for making it work. She's not doing that
ReplyDeleteAmy
Hi Amy, So far I have not been spanked or given any "bare bottom warnings" as she has called them. By my own assessment I have not done anything that has led me to be spanked since January.
DeleteShe had claimed that she was being very strict in December with the expectation that I would become very sensitive to the types of behaviors that have led to spankings in the past so that hopefully 2015 could be a spank free year.
I feel that I have improved my behavior so I have not been spanked. So for me there is no confusion hear and there should not be for you either.
Perhaps you are just disappointed that my wife has not began punishing me indiscriminately and severely. I am sure if I messed up again I would be spanked again. I also am sure that given the right set of circumstances she would carry out her long standing threat to spank me in front of Sarah. In the past I have gone this long without a spanking so I am not out of the woods yet. It just looks like all the bare bottom warnings in December were just that, warnings and perhaps there is nothing to "figure out" and it was only what she was saying it was all along. An opportunity to learn what behavior is expected of me.
Thanks for responding. Are you saying that a month or so of " bare bottom warnings" demonstrating her expectations and standards was so effective your behavior ( so far) this year conforms to her standards to the extent she has not had to spank. If so I am genuinely impressed even if you get in trouble later that the effect of those warnings have lasted so long.If I had done something like the warnings with my own husband there would have been improvement but I still would have had to do follow up spanking to reinforce.If the bare bottom warnings is all it took you are a dreamboat husband that is going to require very little additional discipline as your marriage grows
DeleteAmy
Hi Amy,
DeleteI think I need to be honest with myself. In the past I have certainly gone this long without getting spanked, so in some ways, there is nothing new here.
What was new were the "bare bottom warnings" where my pants and briefs were pulled down or off and I was placed into a very embarrassing position for the slightest mistake. These are little things that I never would have been spanked for in the past, but the warnings served to highlight all the little non spank-able offenses that I commit on a daily basis. So it is not like I was being bad every day and suddenly got better overnight. Its just that she was administering these warning for a month and then things went back to normal.
I sincerely hope I can maintain my good behavior and so far so good, but I am not at the point where I can claim a new record for number of spank free days. That stands at 98 days and while I am coming up on that record, I am not quite there yet.
So the warnings were never given for previously spank-able offenses. I am sure if I did something during the warning period that called for a spanking I would have been spanked for it,
Perhaps writing this prompted you to realize how unlikely it is that Sarah was judging you for wearing briefs, and ultimately irrelevant even in the event that she was?
ReplyDeleteDo write about your earlier spanking and tell it however you like. This is after all your blog.
You may be right about Sarah and my underpants, but to turn what you said around, I feel the way I feel. It is emotional and not rational, so whether she is judging me or not is irrelevant to how I feel about it. I am not even sure if she even saw them. Just makes me self conscious thinking she saw them. It is about how I feel, not how she feels.
ReplyDeleteAs for my childhood memories? I am still debating that one. I would like to share them to help set the stage, but I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or change the tone of the blog.
Let's hope for you that your wife didn't tell Sara about the skidmarks and other stains in your underpants. If my husband leaves sikmarks in his underpants he is is potty trainend in the weekend after. When he goes to the toilet he has to leave the door open and i will wait untill he is finished. Then i wipe his bottom like a 3 year old toddler. At 6 pm i will send him upstairs to put his pyjama's on and i follow him upstairs to get him a very sore bottom with the bathbrush. After that he's going in bed till the next morning.
ReplyDeleteDory.
Well Dory,
DeleteI feel sorry for your husband, unless of course he enjoys the treatment. I was mortified enough with her just supervising my shower and washing my bottom out herself. Having her wipe me after I use the toilet would be worse.
My husband does not like enjoy the treatment at all. His finds it very humiliating and he is very ashmed when I wipe him. But he knows that I hate his briefs in the laundry with brown stains in them. So its is his choice: clean underpants or being wiped and spankend. And I must say that the punishment works. Last year I only had to punish him twice for this mistake. Before that I found dirty briefs almost every week. The threat of being wiped and spanked has a good result so I keep that punishment alive.
ReplyDeleteDory
Well, I must admit, I was ashamed and embarrassed when my wife showed me the evidence of my poor hygiene. I just wish she showed me then gave me the chance to correct it myself. I did not enjoy having her was me herself like I was a 2 year old.
DeleteWell, at least for now that is done with. I am more aware of my cleanliness and am careful to make sure I am properly wiped and that when I shower I properly clean back there.