A while ago when I first started writing this blog, a comment-er suggested I take the time to respond to all the people who have commented.
While I did read all of them I only took the time to respond to a few of them. Well with the emotional roller coaster I have been on these last few days, I took a day off from work and spent some time re-reading all the comments and responding to every single one of them (if I missed your comment I am sorry it was an oversight)
Of course some of the early comments may no longer be relevant or their opinions may have changed over the months, but I responded just the same.
Just my way of saying thanks for all the comments and feedback. I still welcome any new comments you may wish to make and will try to be more diligent in responding.
Glad to hear you are making progress, good job breaking the ice with her on the subject. I think you married the right person, you need a strong spouse and you're a man. Most women punish their men in other ways (withholding sex, silent testament, etc.), your woman spanks. Could be worse! A lot worse.
ReplyDeleteImagine a wife who just gets mad , holds it inside, says nothing, won't talk, you don't know why, you start to resent her, she doesn't want to have sex, you get mad, start to jerk off and take care of yourself, go to a marriage councilor years later after you have kids, can't remember how you got off track but now resentment is entrenched, etc.
Communication avoids all of that even if there are consequences.
Sounds like you have a nice marriage. For those of us who enjoy a good real life story about a wife who spanks, we'll look forward to your next childish action....if it happens, and the subsequent post!
Good luck avoiding that, but if you do get spanked again at least you know some of us will enjoy hearing about it.
Take care,
KL
Thanks. I want to be clear, I still don't want to be spanked, but I don't like the alternatives to not submitting to them. Given that I can control my behavior, I hope to avoid any future spankings. If I can't avoid all future spankings I will certainly make triple dog sure I avoid one on front of her friend. I will keep the blog informed of any future events.
DeleteSince there are many who enjoy reading about my spankings perhaps I will take some time to write about some of the past spankings.
It sounds like you don't really want to be spanked but are willing to work hard to avoid it and are willing to accept being spanked as a consequence when you fail. I'm not one who wishes to read about your spankings, so I won't be visiting the blog any more, but I wish you well in your marriage.
ReplyDeleteThanks. I will miss you comments.
DeleteIt sounds as if your wife has been more than fair to you and she is not abusive but like me is simply wanting to help you become a better person.
ReplyDeleteWhile Bob did ask for me to do this to him I think if you asked him now it's not sexually stimulating like he thought it would be in his fantasies. But the discipline has made vast improvements in his behavior.
Like your wife I don't look for reasons to spank him but when he acts in a childish manner that is when I do. And like she told you if you want to avoid being spanked then control how you act. She couldn't have made it any plainer to you than she did. Like I tell Bob he has no one to blame but himself if he gets spanked because it's his actions or attitude that got him to that point.
I think you have a wonderful wife and I applaud you for finally communicating with her because that is the key. And she did a great job of communicating to you that she is trying to help you not hurt you.
Dianne
Well, she does hurt me. I really don't like the spankings, but at least I feel some control now.
DeleteIt's great that you have had the discussion with your wife and it's great that you accept her rules now and are going to work hard to maintain good behaviour to avoid future spankings. I'm sure your wife is delighted. And should be proud how she has handled the situation.
ReplyDeleteYou said many of us enjoy reading about spankings, and that in part is true from those of use who come from having a prior interest in CP fantasy. However what really interests me is how a female-led relationship can flourish with domestic discipline.
Dianne makes a really good point about Bob - who initially asked to be punished by his wife to live out his sexual fantasies. But now that Dianne has now taken control the point where there is no sexual stimulation at all - just painful correction.
It's the same for me and, just like Bob, it's helped improve my attitude. Just as your wife has improved yours. So while there might be an underlying history of fantasy for us, the reality has overtaken it and some of us realise that your spankings are likely to have been quite unpleasant, though thoroughly beneficial.
Like I said, I do not enjoy the spanking at all and don't accept them any near as much as you do. My goal is to be spank free in 2014.
DeleteSpankings (and other forms of domestic discipline) are not meant to be "enjoyed" - in most cases - but they can be accepted, if they are deserved. The real question is whether you are willing to let her be the judge of that (I, for one, do) And once that has been established, it shouldn't matter all that much whether or not her sister or one of her friends knows about it (or even gets to watch it).
ReplyDeleteI understand what you are saying. I don't feel I "deserve" a spanking, but it is also clear that she has clear guidelines on what is a spanking offense. As for "willing" to let her be the judge, that is a moot point, she IS the judge and decides when I get spanked period. I really hope she continues to keep this a private matter between me and her and doesn't involve her friend. For me that very much does matter.
DeleteSo long as you recognize that she IS the judge, you should accept that she can also decide whether or not you should be spanked under the eyes of a friend. I, for one, have been paddled and whipped not only in front of, but also BY her sister and two of her friends... Was I ashamed? Yes, the first time - but then I got used to it...
DeleteI just found your blog and so far its been a very interesting read. I have many thoughts but I'm going to wait until the end because maybe you've learned all you need by then. Eddard
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